149. Weight Loss and the Gold Star

The Quilters Coach Podcast

Have you ever found yourself not getting everything you want despite being a star student in your youth? This episode is for you. I'm Dara Tomasson, and in episode 149 of "Love Yourself Thin," I'm delving into how seeking external validation, symbolized by the gold star, influences our personal and professional lives. I'll explore this concept from a historical perspective and share personal experiences to help you rethink and rewire your thoughts for better outcomes.⁣ ⁣ In this episode, I aim to shift your mindset from relying on others' approval to valuing your own. I'll recount a story from my membership program where a client celebrated an honorable mention at a quilt show, highlighting the shift from seeking first-place validation to appreciating personal effort and growth. I'll discuss the historical roots of seeking approval and how it impacts us today, especially in the context of menopause and perimenopause. I'll also draw parallels between the nurturing environment needed for seeds to grow and the positive mental environment needed for personal development.⁣ ⁣ What you will learn in this episode:⁣ ⁣

• Understanding the roots of external validation: How the educational and industrial systems shaped our need for approval and how it affects our adult lives.⁣
• Balancing external and self-approval: Practical advice on identifying areas where you seek others' approval and areas where you need to cultivate self-approval.⁣
• Impact of mental health on physical health: Insights into how addressing mental health issues can improve overall well-being and why it's crucial to focus on self-compassion and emotional awareness.⁣

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