How NOT to adopt a false sense of security!

Principles into Practice with Kain Ramsay

Whether you believe that your self confidence and trust is broken by a loved one having an affair, a destructive addiction, or the departure of someone’s interest in you, it requires a radical shift in your worldview to get things back on track. Emotionally adjusting takes time and energy, but is worth it as it builds maturity and a commitment to being responsible for you. If you have ever truly trusted someone and went on to learn that they weren’t deserving of it, you might be likely to swing to the opposite side of the pendulum and feel wary of everyone. If you have a deep rooted belief that it would be hard to ever trust anyone else 100% again, you’re actually not too far from the truth because you cant. The real task is learning to trust you. Everyone has their own notion of what trust feels like. On some level, trust is having faith in someone else’s ability to truly know and support you. This may mean nurturing, protecting, listening, contributing financially, knowing what you are thinking without you having to say it, anticipating your desires, etc. As you can see, this is a pretty tall order to place on anyone – I mean, would anyone else in this world ever be totally wise to place 100% of their trust in you? Trusting yourself is much harder than handing yourself over to someone else. After all, you came into the world as a helpless infant who needed adult care and attention, so on some very deep level, it’s tempting to want to feel fully nurtured by someone. Since everyone in this world has some degree of abandonment issues, this desire is heightened by the fear that those we love the most will eventually leave. The good news is until you drop the body (as they say in India), you can always count on yourself. It may take a lot of practice to prove to yourself you are truly capable of simply being yourself – especially if you’ve been hurt or rejected by other in the past, but you are! Keep at it and the emotional rewards will accrue, until the day comes where you no longer place your trust and faith in things or people external to you, but base your confidence upon whom you actually are. YOU become the most the most consistent and reliable person that you know, even is no one else in the world were ever wiling to match you!