When the Golden Rule Is Used to Gaslight You! Dysfunctional Relationships & Narcissistic Abuse

The Self-Love Recovery Podcast

In this episode, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC makes a discovery during a recent psychotherapy session. Ross's client "Anthony" went to a Codependency Anonymous meeting during which the "golden rule" and its importance to codependency recovery was discussed. The more they talked about it the more Ross noticed he felt shamed that he could not always practice this "rule," or when he practiced it, it only made him feel worse. It was then Ross realized that when codependents practice the "Golden Rule," it is often with narcissists who are neither willing nor capable of reciprocating.
Therefore, the fixation on this rule engenders self-doubt, shame, and self-loathing, all of which fit with codependency, or Self-Love Deficit Disorder. As a result, this rule has inherent danger when practice outside of the context it was created or with healthy people. Moreover, when people are gaslit to practice the "Golden Rule" despite being hurt, neglected or abused, then they stay in a perpetual shame-based double bind.
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Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it.
Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops.
His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel with 23 million views and 248,000 subscribers, and his book, The Human Magnet Syndrome, which has sold over 155,000 copies in 12 languages.
In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services. Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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