Closing the Pleasure Gap with Danielle Bezalel

The Girlfriend Doctor w/ Dr. Anna Cabeca

Let’s get real—sexual health, pleasure, and intimacy are things we don’t talk about nearly enough, even though they’re so important to our overall happiness. Today, we’re breaking down the "pleasure gap," where straight women often miss out compared to others in the bedroom, and what we can actually learn from queer relationships about communication and intimacy. Danielle Bezalel, a master’s degree holder in public health and the creator of the popular podcast Sex Ed with DB, is joining me to share her expertise on why this happens and how we can change it, so pleasure becomes something we all experience more fully.

Danielle also gets super candid about her own three-week self-pleasure experiment—yes, three weeks of daily self-care with the Magic Wand—and how it transformed her well-being. You’ll hear some fascinating takeaways on the role of self-pleasure, how to better communicate with your partner, and some real talk on using sex toys and lubricants safely. If you’ve been feeling disconnected or just want to improve your intimate life, this episode has tons of helpful tips you can put into practice right away.

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Key Takeaways:

[00:02:09] Pleasure deficit disorder.

[00:06:52] Masturbation experiment and wellness.

[00:08:51] Magic wand benefits and effects.

[00:12:27] Clitoral stimulation and pleasure.

[00:14:39] Clitoral anatomy and stimulation.

[00:20:49] Pleasure without the pressure.

[00:21:31] Orgasm gap in queer relationships.

[00:25:22] Sex toy safety tips.

[00:29:03] Choosing the right lubricant.

[00:32:45] Uncomfortable topics in sexual health.

Memorable Quotes:

"Sexual health and wellness is so paramount to so many things that happen in our lives, whether it be with ourselves, with our partners, with our families, with our happiness, with our mental health, our wellbeing." [00:06:00] – Danielle Bezalel

"The more we are to embrace kind of this idea of pleasure and that we are deserving of this pleasure, the more likely I personally believe that your body will respond as such." [00:11:45] – Danielle Bezalel

Links Mentioned:

Mighty Maca Super Savings: https://dranna.com/mighty15

Connect with Danielle Bezalel:

Website: https://www.sexedwithdb.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/edwithdb

Twitter: https://x.com/SexEdwithDB

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb

Connect with Dr. Anna Cabeca:

Website: https://drannacabeca.com/pages/show

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegirlfrienddoctor/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thegirlfrienddoctor

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drannacabeca

Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com