S1- E14 | Nirushka shares how she transformed from barely Coping to Thriving

The Crucible:Conversations for the Curious

Highlight

"I realised I was carrying all this stuff other people didn't experience. I call it a personal hell because that's what it was for me. Like my body was in this state of static. I felt like there was constant static running through my body, like there was this buzz, and I couldn't connect with anything outside of that buzz. And later on, I realised that I had PTSD."

Summary

Nirushka shares her journey of awakening and self-discovery, starting in 2020. She describes her experience of realising that she had been living in a state of unconsciousness and sleepwalking through life. Through various experiences and synchronicities, she began to let go of old patterns and traumas, leading to a profound transformation. She emphasises the importance of reconnecting with the inner child and re-parenting oneself.
She encourages listeners to respond rather than react to challenges and to embrace failure as a learning opportunity.
She emphasises the importance of connecting with the body and using techniques such as breathing and body scans to train attention back into the body. Nirushka also explores the concept of codependency and how it stems from childhood wounds and the search for unmet needs. She highlights the significance of forgiveness, setting boundaries in healing, and creating healthier relationship patterns.

Nirushka
Website - https://www.nirushka.com
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nirushka-kollopen-482644235
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nirushka.kollopen/

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Nirushka shares a free quiz to see if you are self-abandoning in your life: https://nirushka.com/self-abandonment-quiz/

Takeaways

• Awakening is coming online and realising that one has been living in a state of unconsciousness or sleepwalking through life.
• Reconnecting with the inner child and re-parenting oneself is crucial for healing and personal growth.
• Responding rather than reacting to challenges allows for creative solutions and personal empowerment.
• Embracing failure as a learning opportunity is essential for personal development and resilience. Surrendering to the body and allowing oneself to experience uncomfortable sensations without judgment is a process that takes time and practice.
• Connecting with the body through breathwork and body scans helps train attention back into the body and promote self-awareness.
• Codependence often stems from childhood wounds and the search for unmet needs, such as the desire for a nurturing and present parent figure.
• Forgiveness is a crucial part of the healing process, both in forgiving others for their behaviour and forgiving oneself for falling into unhealthy patterns.
• The body holds the record of our experiences, and negative emotions can significantly impact our physical health.

Sound Bites

• "Realising that I've been in a state of complete unconsciousness or I've been sleepwalking through my life."
• "Responding rather than reacting... in a way that I've probably never dealt with it before."
• "It's a gentle process of allowing yourself to surrender and accept your uncomfortable, negative stuff."
• "You suspend your judgments and you're just literally allowing sensation to be in your body."
• "Our body is the only way that we can actually interact with the world, through our senses."

Chapters

02:09 - The Journey of Awakening and Self-Realization

11:20 - Reconnecting with the Inner Child

18:06 - Healing Childhood Trauma and Breaking Free from Patterns

24:42 - Responding vs Reacting: Embracing Creative Solutions

27:08 - Embracing Failure as a Learning Opportunity

31:08 - The Power of Body Awareness

33:51 - Interacting with the World Through Our Body

37:39 - Breathing as a Substitute for Addiction

38:55 - Understanding Self-Abandonment and Codependency

45:54 - Breaking Patterns and Behaviors

49:01 - The Impact of Negative Emotions on the Body

52:10 - The Power of Feeling Truth