194. I stopped calling myself a lazy mom (addressing the overwhelm of motherhood)

Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting

Do you ever find yourself trying to rest or relax and get this nagging voice telling you that you are being lazy? As moms, this can be a nightly experience, when we finally get the kids down and would like to unwind. Instead, our R&R gets hijacked by this notion that if we aren't doing chores, hobbies, exercise, etc then we are being lazy. But, odds are you are NOT a lazy mom, rather you are overwhelmed. In this episode we cover some of these topics (and related links you might like): The original blog post When I realized I wasn’t a lazy mom, I was just overwhelmed Naming our experience The power of naming our emotions (how affect labelling can improve your emotional intelligence) Societal expectations on moms 188. Motherhood & Instagram Culture (how online communities impact your motherhood experience) Self-definition (limiting identities) 76. Why it matters what you think (limiting mindsets in motherhood) Three ways we are exhausted during the day Physical exhaustion Emotional exhaustion, mirror neurons, our kids' emotions 117. Emotional Intelligence 101 (and by Enneagram Type) 119. Tolerating tough emotions in our kids (and ourselves) 113. Why you aren’t thriving in motherhood (stress and surviving) Mental exhaustion, mental load, decision fatigue 144. How to lighten the mental load of DECISION FATIGUE The counter-argument of 'just be more organized' 11 Things That Make My MomLife Simpler 133. 4 simple habits that make my momlife better How do we handle this voice telling us that we are lazy Window of tolerance understanding how the window of tolerance impacts your stress in motherhood 153. How to move from ambivalent to ambitious (making change takes more than just willpower) Knowing when you are overwhelmed and when you are feeling lazy 180. Self-care, self-comfort, self-love & what we have learned from our mothers 129. Does your ‘to-do list’ overwhelm you? Expectation overwhelm and how to handle it. Get the wallpapers for the Beautiful Words Episode right here All of the Simple Christmas posts are right here FULL TRANSCRIPT 0:00 Hey it's Shawna, you're near to go find a counselor from simple on purpose.ca. Welcome to the Simplon purpose podcast. 0:17 So it's December guys we made it is December. And today when I'm recording this, it's snowing in BC, which I know what's going to make it beautiful here, except I have to drive out of town for a hockey tournament. So That's never fun to be driving through these kinds of conditions. But hey, that's the life of a Canadian parent with a kid in winter sports, traveling through all the conditions, bringing all the snacks and the vitamins and the gear is just like a whole thing, isn't it? 0:42 So we're in December, many of us are thinking about Christmas planning for it, whatever you're celebrating, we're thinking about it. And I do like to share content that is seasonally relevant. And often I would share a lot of posts about Christmas. But I've shared so much in the past that I'm not going to rehash all of it. Again, I'm just going to lead you to the archives of all of the posts all of the episodes about all of the things when it comes to simplifying Christmas, and having your Christmas be intentional and purposeful in something that you just show up for and enjoy. So stop by the link in the show notes for a little landing page for all of that. 1:19 I'm going to talk about a well loved post that I shared a few years back called I stopped calling myself a lazy mom. And when I wrote it, I was writing it from that experience of feeling like I was momming hard all day long, three small kids. 1:34 Just reminder, my kids now are 12,11, and nine. So when they were all at home, they were all like close in age and it was like hot, hot and heavy situation.