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Breaking Free from the Mirror: Developing a Secure Sense of Self

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Who are you? How do others view you? And why do we care so much about what others think of us, especially when they probably aren't spending as much time thinking about us as we think they are? When they do think about us, they see us through their own lens. It’s time to discover who you are. So, how exactly do you do that?

Tony Overbay, LMFT, reads a heartfelt letter from a long-time listener, Jamie, who struggles with issues in her marriage and recognizes patterns from her childhood that affect how she interacts with her spouse and children. Tony explores the concept of the 'Looking Glass Self' by Charles Horton Cooley, discussing how our self-identity is shaped by our perceptions of how others view us. He uses examples from listeners and clients to explain how these early experiences impact our self-esteem and relationships. Tony introduces the modern-day concept of the 'reflected sense of self' from David Schnarch's theories of differentiation and provides practical advice on overcoming the need for external validation, forming healthier attachments, and developing a stable self-identity.

Join Tony as he navigates these deep psychological concepts and offers insights into creating more emotionally secure and fulfilling connections.

00:00 Listener's Heartfelt Letter

02:31 Introduction to Episode 424

03:10 Exploring the Concept of the Mirror

03:29 Charles Horton Cooley and the Looking Glass Self

09:00 Real-Life Examples of the Looking Glass Self

16:16 Differentiation and Emotional Independence

16:57 Balancing Connection and Individuality

18:47 The Reflected Sense of Self

27:00 Understanding Identity and Self-Worth

27:55 The Role of External Validation

29:25 Parent-Child Dynamics and Conditional Love

30:53 Emotional Neglect and Its Impact

33:21 Attachment Styles and Emotional Support

40:13 The Concept of Shame and Guilt

46:26 Overcoming Childhood Wounds

49:35 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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Who are you? How do others view you? And why do we care so much about what others think of us, especially when they probably aren't spending as much time thinking about us as we think they are? When they do think about us, they see us through their own lens. It’s time to discover who you are. So, how exactly do you do that?

Tony Overbay, LMFT, reads a heartfelt letter from a long-time listener, Jamie, who struggles with issues in her marriage and recognizes patterns from her childhood that affect how she interacts with her spouse and children. Tony explores the concept of the 'Looking Glass Self' by Charles Horton Cooley, discussing how our self-identity is shaped by our perceptions of how others view us. He uses examples from listeners and clients to explain how these early experiences impact our self-esteem and relationships. Tony introduces the modern-day concept of the 'reflected sense of self' from David Schnarch's theories of differentiation and provides practical advice on overcoming the need for external validation, forming healthier attachments, and developing a stable self-identity.

Join Tony as he navigates these deep psychological concepts and offers insights into creating more emotionally secure and fulfilling connections.

00:00 Listener's Heartfelt Letter

02:31 Introduction to Episode 424

03:10 Exploring the Concept of the Mirror

03:29 Charles Horton Cooley and the Looking Glass Self

09:00 Real-Life Examples of the Looking Glass Self

16:16 Differentiation and Emotional Independence

16:57 Balancing Connection and Individuality

18:47 The Reflected Sense of Self

27:00 Understanding Identity and Self-Worth

27:55 The Role of External Validation

29:25 Parent-Child Dynamics and Conditional Love

30:53 Emotional Neglect and Its Impact

33:21 Attachment Styles and Emotional Support

40:13 The Concept of Shame and Guilt

46:26 Overcoming Childhood Wounds

49:35 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

  continue reading

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