EP33 Dicken Bettinger: Being Rewilded By Insight

Rewilding Love

We can't help but relax when we speak with Dicken Bettinger. His way of being is so calming and the way he points to our innate health and wisdom is so clear and grounded.
Dicken learned about the understanding we work from directly from Sydney Banks. His life was transformed both personally and professionally after listening to Syd just one time, and he was able to enjoy many more opportunities to be mentored by Syd.
Prior to meeting Sydney Banks, Dicken was heavily involved in self-development. After meeting him, Dicken pivoted and dropped self-help and shifted his approach to counseling. He no longer saw mental illness only wellbeing. He now viewed his clients (and his family) as having perfect mental health, but for being caught up in their thinking. He helps his clients to see their innate resilience and capacity to wake up from conditioned thinking.
Dicken reminds us that we are built for shifts -- we're designed to have insights. And the best way to be impacted by an insight is to open to the feeling of it, rather than trying to understand it intellectually.
This episode explores:

• How anxiety is created by our thinking not circumstance
• The power of insight and how staying with the feeling is what matters
• The original teachings of Sydney Banks and how they shaped the rest of Dicken's life and career
• Destination as an illusion, there is only the present
• Being in a relationship helps wake us up to who we are and reveals our blind spots

Dicken Bettinger, Ed.D., received his doctorate in counseling psychology and practiced as a licensed clinical psychologist for years. His career spanning 44 years focused on psychological well-being. Dicken co-founded a training, counseling, and education center in Vermont and was a member of senior staff at Pransky and Associates for 16 years, where he developed and led corporate and university leadership trainings, team development, and executive coaching. In 2012 Dicken founded his own business called 3 Principles Mentoring. He offers 4-day immersion retreats for individuals and couples and offers development for 3 Principles practitioners. Dicken co-authored a book called Coming Home: Uncovering the Foundations of Psychological Well-being. He has been happily married for 52 years.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.
Episode 33 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.
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