EP31 Lila Turner: Rewilding Dating

Rewilding Love

Lila Turner is uproariously funny and wise as she speaks with us about her incredible work helping singles who have given up hope on finding love.
Equipped with the knowledge of the one thing that holds people back - their own state of mind - she is able to help her clients flip their perspective and see it is not the people they're dating that are keeping them from finding a lasting relationship, but rather it's how they are approaching dating.
Lila helps her clients to become more aware of their feelings and state of mind. So while historically they may have shown up to dates feeling insecure with a lot on their mind, they can now show up feeling at ease and present to the person in front of them. This tends to completely shift their results in dating from frustration to fun and often to forming lasting partnerships.
Lila has a beautiful way of sharing this understanding using simple and yet profound metaphors. She likens showing up feeling insecure to a date to applying hand cream while wearing latex gloves. We're only able to connect when the gloves come off and we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. In fact, as Angus points out, vulnerability is sexy.
This episode explores:

• Vulnerability creates connection
• Insecurity is unattractive, full stop
• Being present with less on your mind is confidence
• Dating apps are not the problem, state of mind is

Show Notes
Kiss the Ground: a documentary about rewilding soil to save the planet
Biggest Little Farm: a documentary about a couple that unlocks the power of biodiversity on a once-barren farm
Fifty Shades of Beige: Lila's sexy adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey
Lila Turner is the founder of Relationship Ready, a sister business of One Thought with the sole purpose of addressing the invisible hurdles that frustrated singles face. She also has the Becoming Relationship Ready podcast. Lila embraced working with singles when she noticed that some people struggled more than others to have the kind of relationship they wanted and that it was people’s state of mind around relationships and dating that was causing these frustrating patterns. Lila also works alongside her husband, Aaron Turner, running the organization, One Thought. Together they design, develop and facilitate programs for individuals and organizations. She also co-runs the One Thought Foundations Program to develop new practitioners.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: therewilders.org. Read Rohini's latest blog.
Episode 31 features the music of RhythmPharm with Los Angeles-based composer Greg Ellis.
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