Dr. Reedy discusses boundaries and self-care and how guilt, shame, and fear must be dealt with in order to love yourself. He explains how boundaries are beyond right and wrong. He explains how love of self is the foundation for loving everyone else.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what triggers it. He explains that old contexts, old relationships, old energies, roles, or rules can trigger us in ways that we revert back to a less evolved way of functioning. He encourages observing this dynamic and developing compassion for ourselves when we experience this inevitability.…

Dr. Reedy talks about the characteristics of an authentic apology. He explains the difference between an apology and an amends. He explains that forgiveness is not a future but something we can do when we can do it - we do it when we can so that we can feel better.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy explores the pressures and dilemmas that many people grapple with over the holidays. He talks about why we feel obligated to show up to our old context is certain ways. He talks about observing ourselves when we visit family and how to develop a practice of self-compassion for our regression.…

Dr. Reedy discusses the risk of practicing gratitude and proposes that a more effective route might be by learning to feel all our feelings. He explains toxic positivity, gaslighting and spiritual bypass. He talks about Thanksgiving and the pressure to feel a certain way and what to do about that.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Family of Origin Through Lens of Family Systems Theory - Ep 633 by Dr. Brad ReedyDoor Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses why personal work is the basis for all our relationship issues and challenges. He takes live questions from the audience on psychedelics, religion, children using marijuana, and how to respond to these issues.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy explains the etiology of narcissism and how we all have some of it. He defines the narcissistic wound as the wound of not being seen. He debunks many ideas taught today in pop-psychology. He makes a plea to stop responding to the diagnosis intuitively, but with a deeper understanding we can help others and take-in less of the pain the nar…

Dr. Reedy explores the process of projection, starting with splitting-off the parts of ourselves we were told were unacceptable and relegating them to the unconscious – the shadow. He talks about how we want the problem to be out there, in the other. He talks about othering when we don’t own our own feelings of fear, insecurity, or overwhelm.…

The Mysteries of Intimacy - Ep 629 by Dr. Brad ReedyDoor Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between trying to be right or good and being yourself. He discusses how the things we have been taught to fear often hold great wisdom or energy. He explains that if we are operating with the need to be good, driven by ego, we are incapable of love. He explains that when we come to terms with who we are, through s…

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses how to hold boundaries without sacrificing the relationship. He discusses how to honor your feelings of betrayal while staying in relationship to the other. He explains the benefit of group work at Finding You Intensives.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy announces his new project, Finding You Therapy Programs. Providing Therapy Intensives, Coaching, and On-line Workshops for parents, couples, and therapists, Brad explains the underlying philosophy of Finding You. Based in Attachment Theory, he explains how the goal is to draw closer to your authentic self. From here, relationships and dif…

In his last broadcast representing Evoke Therapy Programs, Dr. Reedy shares both his personal connection to the hero’s journey as well as how understanding stories, art, music, literature, and nature draw us back to the one idea that the purpose of life is your life. The goal in Dr. Reedy’s therapy is to become who you are, to become your authentic…

Grief and Loss - Ep 624 by Dr. Brad ReedyDoor Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses the foundations of healthy family dynamics. He talks about how the identified patient becomes the scapegoat for other family members’ undone work.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses attachment based therapy and how repairs to our attachment wounding can be made through the relationship with the therapist.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Morgan Foster is not only a seasoned divorce attorney with more than 20 years of experience, but she’s also the visionary founder of The Pivot Process—a groundbreaking approach that transforms the often painful process of divorce into an opportunity for growth, healing, and new beginnings.Morgan has spent a decade handling complex divorce and custo…

Dr. Reedy discusses Nature-Based Therapy. He explains boundaries and how such an intervention can trigger feelings of betrayal. He talks about grit, growth mindset, the comfort crisis and why therapy set in nature can be so powerful.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the live audience on parental self-care, boundaries, and the guilt that comes as we heal and progress.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses shame and guilt and how they work in our lives. He suggests that becoming healthier, making progress, and healing will inevitably require that we confront our guilt. He also makes it clear that guilt (and shame) are synonymous with morality.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses narcissism, the narcissistic wound, what distinguishes the diagnosis vs. traits, and how narcissism can be treated effectively.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy explores the definition and origins of Codependency. He explains that the root of codependency is the way parents and other big people talk to and respond to the child. Codependency is a modern term that encompasses anxious attachment styles. He explains that codependency is NOT the cause of addiction in another but rather is at the core …

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on the how to respond to a child that won’t open up and when it is okay to take a vacation from the work in therapy.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy talks about how aftercare is the key to a successful treatment intervention. He also talks about the pitfalls and vulnerabilities we encounter during any transition.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Largely drawing from the book with the same name by Thich Nhat Hanh, Dr. Reedy explains mindfulness as a boarder idea than what people think of when considering mindfulness. He explains how therapy is a “talking mindfulness” practice. He explains several tenants on Buddhism including impermanence, non-duality, inter-being, and radical acceptance. H…

Dr. Reedy talks about how when we accept ourselves and are able to see who we are, we are able to move forward. Conversely, thinking of mental health in terms of being completely free of our issues is a breeding ground for denial. He talks about how guilt and shame are at the crux of so many of our dilemmas. He explains attachment theory and how it…

Dr. Reedy talks about the new epidemic in addiction: technology addiction. He covers some of the science behind game and technology design and how developers are using the most up-to-date and sophisticated science to hook their users. He explains how these designs, focused on dopamine and need for an individual’s sense of wellbeing, prey upon the c…

Dr. Reedy welcomes Esin Pinarli to the podcast, Esin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and a Master’s Level Certified Addiction Professional (MCAP) specializing in IMAGO, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals, …

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He discusses the challenges when a spouse doesn’t want to go to therapy. He explores the dynamics in our culture around expectations of mothers and how guilt can be the barrier to improved mental health. And he further explains how the suicidal impulse can be a call to a higher level of consciousnes…

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about why children take risks on their devices and on social media. He talks about when we take care of ourselves, we can be there for those we love. He talks about how we may need to set strong boundaries with our parents if engaging eth them reaches a certain level of toxicity.…

Dr. Reedy discusses ego and soul and explains how these two ideas represent two primary driving energies. Ego, he explains, is the part of us than manages and represents the conscious mind. Defenses, the need to be right, and gatekeeping the unconscious material are its primary roles or duties. Ego is fear based and operates withing a scarcity mind…

Dr. Reedy discusses the challenges of co-parenting. He explains how to avoid making things worse. He emphasizes that we “stay on our side of the street” and not become overly focused on the other’s shortcomings.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses attachment, what it takes to provide a secure attachment, and what to consider to prioritize a secure attachment over behavior or symptom management.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy explains how love and fear are driving forces in our unconscious, motivating much of our behavior. He explains that we need to learn to distinguish between love and fear and understand when we are taking from others and when and how we can show our love to our children and partners.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses Evoke’s custom private intensives for couples and families. He explains what make Evoke’s Intensive work different and how we aim to be the experts, not on your life, but on creating a process where you can discover your truth.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy discusses what sets Evoke Therapy Intensives apart from other programs. He explains the clinical model and explains how Evoke uses attachment and the concepts of transference and counter transference.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on what to do if doing your own work and apologizing to your children doesn’t make a difference.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

From an article by Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls, Dr. Reedy discusses what happens when the chronic stress from children struggling with mental health issues bring parents to a point of numbness, disconnection, and shame. He talks about the isolation and shame that comes when a parent loses their ability to feel warmth and love for a struggling ch…

Dr. Reedy talks takes live questions from the audience and talks about self-care in the context of the child parent dynamic. He talks about looking for a therapist that is patient, kind, and secure. He explains attachment-based therapy and the upcoming Master Class and how the medicine in therapy is the way the therapist is with the client.…

Dr. Reedy talks about communication skills and how “why” we share is more important than the words we use.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy take live questions from the audience. He discusses how to deal with an angry, resentful child. He also talks about what can happen when one spouse doesn’t want to do their therapy work.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596 by Dr. Brad ReedyDoor Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on the process of wilderness therapy, how to support a family member in treatment, the new book "Bad Therapy," and how to model the change you want to see in your children.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy talks about how myth and stories provide a template for the heroic journey inward to discover ourselves. He uses this idea to show that our stories and out myths are invitations to look at the lost parts of ourselves so that we can heal and become who we are.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy answers a question about finding hope and worth after an affair. He talks about how to make a repair with a child who doesn’t want to engage anymore. He explains that our context can be internalized and the way to healing is to spend time with a patient, empathic Other.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy talks about what to look for in a therapist. He talks about how to recognize a mature therapist who is capable of holding you with compassion and patience. He explains that "the way a therapist is with you" is the medicine. He talks about characteristics of the adequate or "good enough" therapist. He emphasizes that the therapist must fir…

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about defenses, where and why they happen, what it feels like when we encounter the defense in ourselves or the Other, and what healing looks like so we don’t need the protection of the defense.Door Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Reedy provide an overview of The Eden Project by James Hollis. He explains how the early stages of romantic love are fraught with pitfalls of projection, blame, and the working out of the unconscious, unexplored parts of ourselves. He talks about the responsibility to live our own life and cease abdicating our chief responsibility – to individu…

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on loving our children when they are hurting themselves and on finding the right kind of therapist for ourselves.Door Dr. Brad Reedy