Tolerating Provoking Situations

Upbuilding The Self

“When you squeeze an orange, you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside.” It was hearing this quote, by Wayne Dyer, that inspired Rasanath to really look at and feel confronted by a distastefully sarcastic comment that he had made toward someone he loves. In this episode, Rasanath and Vipin do a deep dive into the concept of tolerance, shedding light on the significance of consciously working through problems rather than hastily reacting or seeking escape. They focus on the importance of putting space between stimulus and response, responding rather than reacting, the consequences of a lack of tolerance, and how we can leverage this wisdom for healthier and happier relationships.

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Hoofdstukken

1. Tolerating Provoking Situations (00:00:00)

2. Rasanath’s inspiration for his reflection on “Tolerating Provoking Situations” (00:01:50)

3. Rasanath’s personal examples during the pandemic (00:03:50)

4. The true test is when you are tested (00:09:20)

5. The dangers of not being tolerant (00:10:50)

6. The first level of tolerance (00:12:50)

7. “We have to respond, not react.” (00:15:20)

8. “If we don’t transform our suffering, we will inevitably transmit our suffering” (00:16:30)

9. Should we address every provoking situation? (00:27:00)

10. Tolerance opens us up to what other stories are possible (00:29:30)

11. How to Create Space Between Stimulus and Response (00:31:30)

12. Showing up selflessly (00:45:50)