EP#135 How to Practice Healthy Non Monogamy - Insights with Ally Iseman

The Open Bedroom Podcast

Today I've got Ally Iseman, a non-monogamous specialist and sexpert, to talk about Healthy monogamy.

We discuss Ally's personal journey into non-monogamy, the importance of communication, and the role of jealousy in personal growth.

Ally shares her insights on setting boundaries, maintaining relationship integrity, and the significance of consent in ethical non-monogamous relationships.

Our conversation covers the diversity within non-monogamous communities, the joy of play and pleasure, and the resources available for those exploring non-monogamy.

The guide's role (00:00:02) Ally explains her role as a guide for healthy non-monogamy, emphasizing her active participation and continual learning.

Introduction to Ally (00:01:07) Jennifer introduces Ally and discusses her journey into the non-monogamous space, highlighting her social media presence and personal experiences.

Challenges in non-monogamous relationships (00:03:52) Ally discusses the challenges and misconceptions in non-monogamous relationships, emphasizing the need for communication and skills applicable to both non-monogamous and monogamous relationships.

Navigating relationship ruptures (00:04:46) Jennifer shares her recent experience of a relationship rupture, and Ali emphasizes the need for guidance and communication in navigating such challenges.

Transition from monogamy to non-monogamy (00:07:10) Ally shares her personal journey from being a serial monogamist to exploring non-monogamy, highlighting the self-development and relationship dynamics involved.

Learning from personal mistakes (00:10:59) Ali discusses the importance of owning and addressing personal mistakes in relationships, emphasizing the need for open communication and self-awareness.

Developing relationship skills (00:13:34) Ally emphasizes the importance of developing relationship skills and creating safe containers for mistakes, highlighting the value of personal growth and learning from experiences.

Defining healthy non-monogamy (00:16:40) Ally discusses the key aspects of healthy non-monogamy, including understanding emotional and physical needs, addressing insecurities, and building relationship security through experiences.

Utilizing jealousy for personal growth (00:18:45) Ally explains the role of jealousy in personal growth and relationship dynamics, emphasizing its potential for self-improvement and relationship insights.

The importance of integrity and consistency (00:19:44) Value of holding oneself and others accountable in relationships, recognizing triggers, and the impact of different partnerships on attachment triggers.

Understanding healthy non-monogamy (00:21:39) Differentiating between healthy and unhealthy non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of consensual relationships and setting clear boundaries.

Embracing play and pleasure (00:23:13) Exploring the concept of play as an essential part of relationships, finding joy and pleasure, and creating a safe environment for exploration.

Creating a safe and inclusive community (00:25:53) Establishing safety measures such as STI testing, vetting process, and promoting mutual respect and consent in a sex-positive community.

Navigating boundaries and growth (00:28:39) Understanding and communicating boundaries, the importance of consent, and the role of discomfort in personal growth.

Exploring new experiences and communities (00:32:06) Encouraging curiosity, community engagement, and the potential for personal growth through exploring new experiences and environments.

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Ally Iseman is the Founder of Passport2Pleasure.com, which offers concierge guidance, eco-luxury retreats, and online courses and resources for couples and individuals exploring healthy non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics. She has been a speaker, community organizer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016, committed to promoting consensual, empowered, and respectful interactions as a leader within the sex-positive space. As a certified and respected ‘sexpert’ on non-monogamy and consent, Ally sits on the executive leadership board of one of LA’s most distinguished sensually-creative events. She regularly shares her insights on podcasts and at live events, and has been quoted in numerous consumer and industry-facing publications, further solidifying her reputation as a knowledgeable and influential voice on the subject of non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics.

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