Are Your Assumptions About Your Wife Harming Your Marriage?

The Generous Husband

On Tuesday, I talked about being unkind to folks. I talked about the assumptions I made about people’s intelligence, integrity, and decency. And those assumptions are the real problem. I justified my wrong behaviour based on my assumptions.

How we treat folks is based on the assumptions we have made about them. How you react to the homeless is based on your assumptions. How you feel about those who have different values or politics is based on your assumptions. And how you think about and treat your wife is based on the assumptions you have made about her!

We don’t just justify our behaviour based on our assumptions, sometimes we make assumptions to justify how we want to treat someone. And we do both of these things with our wives.

What if you’re wrong about what your wife thinks? What if you’re mistaken about why she does certain things? Or why she won’t do other things? What if her choices are based on some trauma in her past that you don’t know about, don’t know about fully, or have dismisses or diminished?

If you judge your wife wrongly, you have no chance of treating her as you should. You will do things that are unacceptable and hurtful. Your attempts to motivate change will have the opposite effect you desire, and you will make a mess of your marriage.

So check your assumptions. Or better yet, dump them and get facts!

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