A 12-Step Program for People Who Aren’t Addicts

Sex, Love, and Addiction

Kristin Snowden and Scott Brassart collaborated to write a book, based on the 12-step program, that can help anyone, of all walks of life, find coping strategies when ‘life just happens’. Not an addict herself, Kristin struggled deeply when crisis after crisis happened in her life and she was completely unable to cope. She used the 12-step program to help her through this journey and give herself a newfound sense of accountability. Scott, a person in recovery and has gone through the steps himself, underlines the importance of each step within the book and how it can completely change your life. Find out about Kristen and Scott’s story on this week’s episode!

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:15] A little bit about Kristen and Scott and what they do.

[3:45] How did Kristen and Scott get to working together on this book?

[6:35] The 12-step program really helped Kristen get through a lot of interpersonal conflict within herself even though she is not an addict herself.

[8:10] Is there a 12-step program for ‘normal’ people? That’s what Kristen’s and Scott’s book is all about!

[10:40] Is the 12-step program a cult?

[11:40] We are tribal people, we find our tribe and we follow it. There’s nothing wrong with that.

[13:20] What is a 12-step program, really?

[16:40] How does the 12-step program help ‘regular people’? Kristen shares how it helped her.

[20:40] What was Kristen’s ‘bottom’ that made her seek additional help and get accountability?

[24:45] When bad things happen, how do you deal with it? This book is to help you get the right coping strategies.

[28:00] Scott breaks down how the book is structured.

[32:30] Kristen shares who this book is for and why it can help you!

RESOURCES:

The Porn Panic: Is Porn a ‘Public Health Crisis’?

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Connect with Kristen & Scott: https://www.kristinsnowden.com/book & Life Anonymous book

QUOTES:

• “When I didn’t start getting what I wanted, my life crumbled and I realized I had such poor coping skills when life was coming at me and I couldn’t control it.”
• “I was a transactional Christian. I did good to get good. I put up superficial fronts to say I was good and great.”
• “Addiction is a maladaptive coping skill and it works until it doesn’t work.”
• “People find soliance and guidance in all kinds of places. The 12-step program is painfully underutilized. The 12-steps teach coping skills.”