The #1 Thing Holding Women Back from What They Want

Magnetic Creator

Get Crystal Clear: The Secret to Manifesting Your Dreams

Hey friend, welcome back! Today, we're diving into the number one thing holding us back from getting what we truly want. It’s simple, but don’t mistake that for easy. This seemingly small issue is a massive roadblock for so many women. Let’s break it down.

Every time I work with a woman wanting to create something new in her life—be it a lover, a business, more money, or just more freaking time and space for herself—we hit the same wall. They know exactly what they don’t want because it’s often their lived experience. But when it comes to describing what they do want, the picture is blurry, and getting specific is a challenge. Even when they think they’re being clear, they’re often just describing what they don’t want.

Sounds strange, right? Stick with me.

The Manifest Missteps

Last week in Nashville, I was at this big event with a bunch of badass women entrepreneurs. I met a beautiful, successful woman excited about taking my manifest course. When I asked her what she wanted to create in her life, she quickly said LOVE. Great, I thought. So, I asked for details.

Instead of diving into the juicy specifics of her dream partner, she immediately launched into a rant about how dating sucks and all the good guys are taken. Whoa, wait a second. I asked for the juicy details about what she wanted to create, not what wasn’t working.

She caught herself, which was great, but many of us don’t. This is SO COMMON and the number one cog in the wheel of women getting what they want.

Another woman I spoke with wanted financial abundance. But when she explained further, she focused on how tired she was of struggling. She could describe her debt in detail but not what financial freedom would feel like.

Let’s get something straight. When I ask about creating wealth, and you lead with your debt and struggles, you’re missing the point. Same goes for love—if you talk about all the assholes on dating apps, you’re not focused on what you want.

Program Your Mind Like a 3D Printer

Think of yourself as programming a 3D printer. Whatever you program in is what you’re gonna get out. Your vision of what you DO want needs to be that clear and detailed. If you program it with all the shit you DON’T want, that’s what it’s gonna spit out. It doesn’t judge; it just follows the input. Manifesting works the same way.

Simple, Not Easy

This sounds simple, but it’s not easy. Think about something you say you want. Can you get nitty-gritty with details? Sensory details? Down to what it feels like in your body, what the air will smell like when you’ve achieved it? This is what’s required to create with ease versus tenacity.

The Importance of Details

Why get that detailed? Because our brains can’t tell the difference between what we imagine and what’s actually happening when we deeply engage all our senses. When I was a dancer, I’d imagine every part of a performance, right down to the sweat and the texture of the floor. My brain didn’t know the difference between practice and performance. Olympic athletes use this technique all the time.

If we focus on what we don’t want, that’s what our brain zeros in on. It’s like setting a GPS to avoid destinations rather than find them. Your GPS doesn’t care; it just follows the input. Our brain is just like that GPS.

Get Clear, Super Clear

Imagine you’re a sculptor, like Michelangelo. You need a clear vision of what you’re creating. If you keep changing your mind mid-chisel, you’re just gonna end up with a mess. Same goes for your dreams. Get clear. Super clear. Down to the juicy details.

Want abundance? What does that look like? How will you know when you have it? You might already have an abundance of things you don’t want, like bills or debt. Get specific about the kind of abundance you’re aiming for.

Alright, friend, that’s your dose of tough love for today. Get crystal fucking clear on what you want. This is the first step to getting what you truly desire. Trust me, most women struggle with this, but I know you’ve got this.