are we... sabotaging our relationships?

Are We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jennifer

In this episode of Are We Okay?, Jennifer and Maddy dive deep into the tricky topics of insecurity, jealousy, and doubt in relationships. Drawing from their personal experiences and extensive work with young professionals in their 20s and 30s, they break down how these emotions can quietly sabotage relationships if left unchecked.

From discussing the unique struggles faced by men and women in therapy to how insecurities manifest differently across genders, Jennifer and Maddy explore the underlying fears that drive relationship insecurities. They highlight the importance of open communication, the dangers of making assumptions, and how jealousy often serves as a red flag, pointing to deeper issues.

This episode isn't just about addressing the ugly side of relationships—it’s also about finding solutions. The hosts offer practical advice on how to manage these feelings, emphasizing the need for self-reflection and how to shift mindsets. They also touch on the delicate balance of vulnerability, why it's key to building lasting connections, and how to stop insecurities from taking control.

Key Takeaways:

• The therapists share personal anecdotes and common themes from their clients’ experiences with jealousy, insecurity, and self-doubt.
• A discussion on why men feel pressure to hide vulnerability and how this impacts relationships.
• Jen and Maddy talk about the fear of vulnerability in the early stages of dating and how both men and women experience insecurities.
• The duo offers practical strategies on how to address insecurity before it destroys relationships.

Downtown Behavioral Wellness: Founded by Maddy Ellberger, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is a private therapy practice in NYC specializing in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The practice focuses on providing evidence-based treatments for young adults and middle-aged clients dealing with life transitions, anxiety, and the unique challenges of their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Whether you're grappling with relationship issues, career stress, or emotional regulation, Downtown Behavioral Wellness is there to support you every step of the way.

Manhattan Wellness: Led by Jennifer Teplin, Manhattan Wellness is a boutique therapy practice dedicated to helping young professionals in New York City. Specializing in issues such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and major life transitions like dating, engagements, and new motherhood, the team at Manhattan Wellness provides compassionate, individualized care to help clients navigate the ups and downs of their 20s and 30s.
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Co-Host: Maddy Ellberger
Co-Host: Jennifer Teplin
Executive Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach