In this episode, we dive into Chapter 2 of Gary John Bishop's transformative book, "Unf*ck Yourself," titled "I am Willing." Join me as we explore the power of willingness and how it can propel you towards your goals. Unf*ck Yourself: Embracing Willingness - Chapter 2 - A Live TikTok Discussion, sharing insights and personal reflections. Whether yo…

"Finding Clarity: Navigating Life with Self-Distancing" explores the transformative concept of self-distancing in the context of addiction and relationships. The story follows a young woman's journey as she discovers the power of stepping back mentally to gain perspective on challenging situations. Amidst the complexities of supporting a loved one …

Today I run through navigating change providing practical strategies for moving through the stages of behavioural change. I will be doing so by using a short story and highlighting some areas where we need to recognise that change may be required for life improvement. The Transtheoretical Model, was developed by psychologists James Prochaska and Ca…

H.A.L.T - How to use this acronym for relapse prevention in sobriety. HUNGY, ANGRY, LONELY or TIRED. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrind…

In this episode, I delve into a profound revelation inspired by the wisdom found on page 61 of Alcoholics Anonymous and page 421, where the intricacies of human nature are described. I explore, through my experience, strength and hope, the intricate balance between my desire for my rights and expectations, and the chaotic discord that often ensues.…

In this episode, I look into the intricacies of the Silent Treatment and its impact on relationships. From real-life examples across various relationship dynamics, especially intimate or romantic relationships, to the psychological effects on individuals, exploring the reasons behind this communication tactic and its potential long-term negative ef…

In this reflective episode, on this continuous journey of self-discovery, I speak about the inevitable growing pains that accompany change. Life, much like the ancient philosophy of yin and yang, is a delicate balance of highs and lows, victories and setbacks. With a blend of vulnerability and optimism, I explore the profound idea that both good an…

I explore the incredible capabilities of the human mind. "Unlocking the Power of the Mind: A Journey Within." I unravel the mysteries of neuroplasticity, mindfulness, positive thinking, cognitive biases and how our thoughts shape our reality. In this episode, I look at the brain's remarkable ability to reorganize itself and form new connections. Di…

In this episode, I look into the transformative journey of recovery through the lens of step work in programs. "The Path to Healing: Embracing Honesty in Step Work" explores the crucial role that honesty plays in the Twelve Steps, examining how it catalyzes self-awareness, breaking through denial, and fostering connection within the family, and the…

In this insightful episode, I delve into the challenging realm of chronic relapse, seeking to unravel the complexities surrounding its causes and potential solutions. As an individual with lived experiences, I share my perspective based on a share I listened to today, about why some individuals find themselves caught in a cycle of relapse despite m…

In today's episode, I look at nuances of my human experience and explore the often-overlooked facet of my emotions, specifically that subtle yet persistent companion in my daily life - Annoyance, irritation and frustration, as I examine the root of its emotional presence within my daily interactions, lately. I discovered the importance of reflectio…

The first step toward recovery involves acknowledging powerlessness over alcohol or addiction and recognizing that life has become unmanageable. It encourages individuals to admit their inability to control their addiction and to accept that intervention from a higher power is necessary for recovery. This step sets the foundation for the 12-step pr…

In this special episode, I speak with Natalie H, a remarkable individual who has not only overcome the challenges of addiction but has also dedicated over 30 years of her life to the practices of meditation and yoga. Natalie's story is one of resilience and transformation, and her journey from addiction to mindfulness is nothing short of inspiring.…

Gaslighting - A serious emotional and psychological form of abuse. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Lesson: How to stop Managing others and start caring for self. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

This episode is inspired by Brianna Wiest's book, "101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think," which provides valuable insights into the dynamics of love and relationships. These insights offer a valuable perspective on love, self-acceptance, and the importance of taking responsibility for your own happiness and well-being before seeking it in …

How I'm dealing with my blow-up? Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

The Friendship Graveyard In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on…

The Friendship Graveyard In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on…

Uncertainty is a pervasive aspect of life that involves a lack of certainty or predictability about future events. In this episode, I speak about my response to finding myself in this period of uncertainty, what it means to me and the direct impact of this change. I aspire for positive change with the acceptance of the outcome surrendered to my hig…

The Friendship Graveyard In the inaugural episode of Tumi’s Daily Grind: “Unrestricted with Thato", we dive headfirst into a deeply personal and resonant discussion about the phenomenon known as the "Friendship Graveyard." This episode takes an introspective look at the friends we've lost along our life's journey and the impact these losses have on…

Detaching with love: The practice that promotes healthier relationships, personal growth, and emotional well-being. Detaching with love doesn't mean we care any less – it's a way of showing our care in a more balanced and sustainable way. In this episode I delve deep into this concept, following personal experiences from the past week. Support the …

Instincts and Addiction Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Moving from Intuition to Intention Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Achieving mastery of consciousness is a lifelong journey that involves continuous growth, self-discovery, and intentional effort. It involves aligning your thoughts, emotions, and actions with your true self and chosen intentions. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj…

Gratitude for gratitude Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Thato on Gender and Sexuality Diversity Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Interview with Kymani: Gender and Sexuality Diversity. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

In certain cases, individuals who struggle with addiction or alcoholism may turn to prayer and meditation as part of their recovery process. These practices can provide a sense of solace, help manage stress, and promote self-reflection and personal growth. However, it's important to distinguish between a healthy engagement with prayer and meditatio…

Do you feel that things around us are slightly off? Well, I do, and the last few weeks have been filled with a sense of unease, discomfort and stress. Can we answer the question? Perhaps not now. However, I would like to ask you to please share your experiences with me at tumi@tumisdailygrind.com. Looking forward to hearing from you. Support the sh…

Personality Development: Psychoanalytic Approach I explain the psychoanalytic approach to personality development by summarising the key characteristics, the value this approach provides in counselling and the current critiques against the psychoanalytic approach. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.…

Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy (REBT) Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Let us Catch up Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

An interview with Mr. D Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Episode 76: Falling Upward by Richard Rohr - A book review Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Episode 74: Selfishness, Self-seeking and God-seeking Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Episode 75: A new understanding of Life Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Many people these days have a lot to say about self-improvement. They tell us that we can all do it if we work. We get told to live healthy, happy and free. In this episode, I tell you that it is not easy. Change is one of the most challenging things to do and requires a lot of dedication. My story is full of successes and failures—a rollercoaster …

ROUND-THE-CLOCK FAITH January 19 Faith has to work twenty-four hours a day in and through us, or we perish. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 16 Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygri…

January 20 As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 87 Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisda…

WOULD A DRINK HELP? January 18 By going back in our own drinking histories, we could show that years before we realized it we were out of control, that our drinking even then was no mere habit, that it was indeed the beginning of a fatal progression. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 23 Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ Y…

An in-depth recovery story with Mr D. I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com…

An in-depth recovery story with Mr D. I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking. Link to Episode 4: https://youtu.be/yruTdId2dzE Suppor…

An in-depth recovery story with Mr D. I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking. Link to Episode 4: https://youtu.be/yruTdId2dzE Suppor…

An in-depth recovery story with Mr D. I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking. Link to episode 3: https://youtu.be/iLzaqnLisxU Suppor…

An in-depth recovery story with Mr D. I had a frank conversation with Mr D about addiction and alcoholism. He has been sober for 25 years, and we talk about his experience, strength and hope. He discusses what it was like, what happened and what it is like now for him since he stopped drinking. Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com…

Day 71: Back to Basics Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Day 72 - A sober December 2022 Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UColvmCjGZtqAtdcMod4Mj2g Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dumasit/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/tumisdailygrindDoor Tumi Dumasi

Day 70: 12 Months, just for today. Yes, I am looking back at my last 12 months. I started my journey on the 13 of October 2021 and am so grateful to have made the choices I made. I chose to change and change is what I am celebrating. Thank you to those who have been with me since the beginning. I wouldn't be celebrating 12 months without your contr…

Humanistic psychology is a psychological perspective that arose in the mid-20th century in answer to two theories: Sigmund Freud's psychoanalytic theory and B. F. Skinner's behaviourism. Thus, Abraham Maslow established the need for a "third force" in psychology. (Wikipedia) Support the show Blog: https://www.tumisdailygrind.com/ YouTube: https://w…