In this episode, they provide insight into how we balance empathy, accountability, and challenge while working with addicts. We explore the complexities of detecting deception, handling relapses, and creating safe spaces for clients to share their struggles. This candid conversation offers a deep dive into the nuances of therapy for sex addiction a…

Working with sex addicts can be deeply challenging but also incredibly rewarding. In this discussion, we share our experiences and perspectives on why we are passionate about this specialty. The work isn't just about addressing sexual dysfunction or relational issues; it's about guiding people through their journey of healing, transformation, and s…

The discussion also touches on balancing empathy with accountability. While it's important to avoid shaming the client, it's equally essential not to minimize their relapse. The approach includes both encouragement and challenge, analyzing what happened and identifying steps to prevent future relapses. The goal is to help clients harness feelings o…

Today’s mailbag episode tackles a complex question from a listener about relapse and recovery. The question revolves around the pain of discovering a partner’s hidden sex addiction and the struggle with the concept that relapse is part of recovery. We explore whether relapse is acceptable or justifiable, discuss the impact on partners, and delve in…

Would the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men? Clinically, the model remains the same for both genders, holding all addicts to the same standards of recovery. However, societal perceptions often differ, giving different leniencies to men and women. While the treatment approach focuses on ""progress, not perf…

In our latest discussion, we explore the complex issue of addiction, relapse, and recovery, particularly in the context of sex addiction. The central question is whether it is ""okay"" for a sex addict to cause harm to their partner and family, with the justification that ""relapse is part of recovery."" While relapse may occur for some addicts, it…

Join us for an insightful discussion on the double-edged sword of technology in today's world, featuring Tim Stein, Jeannie Vittoni, Dan Drake, and Wendy Conquest. In this episode, we dive into how technology shapes our lives and relationships, the impact it has on our brain chemistry and development, and the challenges we face in staying truly con…

Did you know that 39% of Americans report feeling lonely or lacking significant relationships? In today's episode, we explore the growing sense of isolation and disconnection many of us feel in our technology-driven world. From walking our dogs while glued to our phones to missing out on real-life interactions, we're slowly burying ourselves in our…

Have you ever thought about how often you reach for your phone daily? In this episode, we dive into our growing attachment to technology—phones, computers, and beyond. Stay tuned for our future episode.Door Timzi9

Today, we are thrilled to host Barbara Steffens, a trailblazer in betrayal trauma research. Barbara shares her groundbreaking PhD study, which revealed that nearly 70% of betrayed partners met the criteria for PTSD. Discover how her work has reshaped the understanding of betrayal trauma and the treatment of affected partners. Don't miss this insigh…

In this video, we explore the early days of recognizing trauma in betrayed partners, particularly focusing on the impact of infidelity. Dr. Barbara Steffens shares her journey, highlighting the anxiety and determination she felt while presenting their groundbreaking work around 2006-2008. Stay tuned for our upcoming full-length video soon.…

In our latest episode, we speak on the groundbreaking PhD study that explores whether partners who were betrayed experienced trauma and to what degree. With a background in trauma and crisis intervention, we discuss with Dr. Barbara Steffens, PhD, BCC, CCPS, CPC, a researcher set out to understand this dynamic beyond the traditional labels of co-ad…

Welcome to Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships with Dan Drake and guests Wendy Conquest, Jeannie Vittone, and Tim Stein. Today, they delve into the challenging topic of betrayal violence with therapist and magazine creator Hope Ray. Hope introduces the concept, defining betrayal violence as a complex dynamic involving secrecy, repeat…

In this insightful conversation, Hope Ray discusses her work with men in a support group called Getting Dire Straight, where they delve into sensitive topics like male entitlement and misogyny.Door Timzi9

In this episode, we speak with special guest Hope Ray on the dynamics of power and control in relationships affected by addiction and betrayal. We discuss how withholding essential information creates a power imbalance and restricts a partner's agency, ultimately leading to exploitation and harm. The conversation emphasizes the importance of transp…

In this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we discuss the topic of dating for partners after a relationship ends. We explore the challenges faced by partners when relationships don't work out, emphasizing the lack of conversation and support for those navigating life after a breakup or divorce.…

In this discussion, we delve into offering guidance for betrayed partners re-entering the dating scene post-recovery. We emphasize the importance of building a supportive social network before diving into dating. Self-exploration and identity formation are key steps to feeling confident and secure before seeking new relationships. Instead of viewin…

In this discussion, we explore the challenges of readiness and intimacy for betrayed partners entering the dating scene post-recovery. We challenge the cultural pressure to rush into sexual encounters and advocate for a more deliberate approach to building emotional connections. By reframing the question to focus on compatibility and emotional safe…

In this heartfelt discussion, we delve into the challenges partners face when deciding to end a relationship affected by addiction and trauma. We explore the complex emotions of sadness, relief, fear, and excitement that accompany this decision, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and processing grief and loss. The conversation emphasizes …

Today, we're discussing the impact of sexual betrayal on families and children, a vital but often overlooked topic. We're excited to have Casey Allison, a certified partner coach, who has created a unique children's book addressing this issue. Her book provides age-appropriate explanations about betrayal and recovery, featuring beautiful illustrati…

In this insightful discussion, we explore the nuanced dynamics of trauma within relationships affected by addiction. We consider the possibility that partners' behaviors, both before and after discovery, can contribute to the addict's experience of trauma. By examining the interplay between autonomy, codependency, and unconscious coping mechanisms,…

In this thought-provoking discussion, we delve into the concept of abandonment wounds in relationships affected by addiction. We explore the idea that partners' actions, such as focusing on personal goals or life changes, may inadvertently exacerbate these wounds, potentially contributing to addictive behaviors in the addict.…

In this discussion, we explore whether partners enable addictive behaviors in relationships affected by addiction. We note that while some partners may engage in behaviors to stay connected to the addict, we hesitate to label it as enabling. Our conversation highlights the complexity of addressing both addiction and underlying issues in therapy, em…

In this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we discuss seeking treatment for sex addiction and betrayal trauma with Dr. Rob Weiss. We will breakdown his insights on when to seek treatment, different treatment centers, and affordability.Door Timzi9

In this episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships, we delve into the topic of healthy masturbation. We explore the nuances of what constitutes healthy self-pleasuring versus addictive behaviors within the context of addiction recovery and relationships. Our discussion navigates various perspectives, including the role of masturb…

Join us as we dive into the topic of healthy masturbation and what it means in the context of sexuality and addiction recovery. We want to emphasize the importance of changing one's relationship with masturbation rather than simply stopping the behavior altogether.Door Timzi9

We want to tackle the sensitive topic of healthy masturbation within the context of relationships affected by betrayal and addiction. Listen to our quick conversation to address the concerns and fears partners may have about their addicted spouse considering a new approach to masturbation. Our conversation delves into the complexity of individual s…

In the episode, we discuss the answers you sent in for your mailbag questions. You all asked: Could a sexless long term marriage be a reason for sex addiction? Is it possible to enable the sex addicts behavior? What's the best role a partner can take towards the addicted spouse?Door Timzi9

Join us for a deep dive into the complexities of change within relationships impacted by betrayal and addiction. In this thought-provoking discussion, our panel delves into the intricacies of transformation, highlighting the pivotal role of discomfort in catalyzing meaningful shifts.Door Timzi9

Join us for a thought-provoking discussion as we delve into the complex interplay between sexlessness and sex addiction within marriages. In this candid conversation, our panelists offer insights and perspectives on whether a sexless long-term marriage could be a reason for sex addiction.Door Timzi9

Today, we're thrilled to welcome authors Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, to discuss their book 'Building True Intimacy'. Let's explore the layers of trust, vulnerability, and connection that form the foundation of lasting relationships.Door Timzi9

Join us in today's Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships as we dive into the intriguing topic of secrets. Wendy Conquest, Tim Stein, and Dan Drake explore the nuances between secrets and lying, discussing the impact on individuals and relationships. Are secrets rooted in shame, or can they sometimes be necessary boundaries?…

Have you ever wondered about the correlation between relationship investment and the tolerance partners have for waiting during the recovery process? In this insightful discussion, our expert delves into the complex dynamics of trust, trauma, and the role they play in addiction recovery. Join us as we explore real-life scenarios and hear from indiv…

In this episode, we are speaking on secrets. Navigating secrets and boundaries is tricky. Some are about managing stigma, others about respecting boundaries. It's crucial to distinguish between rigorous and brutal honesty. What are your thoughts on this delicate balance?Door Timzi9

In this episode, we are speaking with the brilliant Michelle Mays, a seasoned expert in sex addiction, trauma, and relationships. Her new book, "The Betrayal Bind," is a must-read! Tune in as we dive into various topics, including Michelle's coaching program, her impactful work in the field, and the complexities of betrayal trauma.…

In the episode, we discuss when there is betrayal trauma in sex addiction relationships and feature guests Allan Katz & Michelle Saffier, who wrote the book "Ambushed by Betrayal."Door Timzi9

In the episode, we discuss when sex addicts or partner of a sex addict decide to end a relationship and what are their next steps including the right time to open up about sex addiction, recovery, etc.Door Timzi9

This is a clip from the Conversations Episode Opening Up About Sex Addiction To A Potential Partner, coming soon. We discuss when is the right time to tell a potential partner that you are a sex addict.Door Timzi9

This is a clip from the Conversations Episode Opening Up About Sex Addiction To A Potential Partner, coming soon. We discuss when is the right time to start dating as a sex addict.Door Timzi9

In the episode, we discuss the answers you sent in for your mailbag questions. You all asked: Can you gaslight your partner? Is sex addiction curable? How do I struggle to say that a relationship is over?Door Timzi9

This is a clip from the Conversations Episode You Asked & We Answered, coming soon. We discussed the questions that you sent in via our mailbag.Door Timzi9

This is a clip from the Conversations Episode You Asked & We Answered, coming soon. We discussed the questions that you sent in via our mailbag.Door Timzi9

In the episode, we discuss how addicts with their partners can change dynamics of their relationships with couples therapy. Couples therapy can bridge the gap between addicts and their partners.Door Timzi9

In the episode, we discuss how addicts can handle their emotions during their recovery stage and what does mindfulness look like from an emotional, physical and mental standpoint.Door Timzi9

In the episode, we discuss what our listeners are interested in hearing from our podcast and questions sent in via our mailbag.Door Timzi9

This is a clip from the Conversations Episode Conversations: What Is Eroticized Rage? coming soon. We discuss how we define eroticized rage.Door Timzi9

In the episode, we discuss what our listeners are interested in hearing from our podcast and questions sent in via our mailbag.Door Timzi9

This is a clip from the Conversations Episode Questions Everyone Wants Answered, coming soon. We discuss what the difference is between a sex addict in recovery and a sex addict that is white-knuckling.Door Timzi9

This is a clip from the Conversations Episode Questions Everyone Wants Answered, coming soon. We discuss what the difference is between a sex addict and a sexually active person.Door Timzi9

In the episode, we discuss how addicts can deal with forgiveness when they are going through recovery and what partners may notice during their addict's journey.Door Timzi9