A show for gentle souls who are ready to shine. INFP Enneagram 9s are reserved yet passionate dreamers and creative thinkers who often put the needs of others first. That doesn’t mean we don’t have our own ambitions and desires. To achieve them, we must become more visible. In this experimental audio diary, host Sarah Mikutel stretches out of her comfort zone to work through what it takes to step out of the shadows and into the spotlight.
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Why do we get angry? How can we challenge our immediate reactions? And what's the best way to articulate our feelings without passive aggression or a blow-up? In this episode, you'll learn four Stoic tips to turn potential conflicts into opportunities for personal growth and stronger relationships. Become a member of the Live Without Borders Commun…
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Find the Good in this Very Moment
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I’m reading David Fideler’s excellent book Breakfast with Seneca, where he quotes Seneca in one of his letters: “If you want to escape your troubles, you don't need to be somewhere else: you need to be someone else.” Those searching for meaning or purpose in life might think a new place will provide answers. But a new location, a new job, a new par…
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4 Best Tips to Communicate with Intent and Impact (Stoic style)
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Our intentions don’t always line up with our outcomes, and misunderstandings lead to anger, sadness, frustration, and conflict. In this episode, I’ll talk about intent vs impact, which is more important, and how to effectively and ethically communicate your intentions. Of course, I’ll be weaving in the timeless wisdom of the Stoics. Hi, I’m Sarah M…
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Overcome Speaking Anxiety with Stoic Psychology
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Introvert Emergency Kit Click here if you're ready to become a less anxious, more charismatic public speaker. When it comes to public speaking, what exactly are you afraid of? Most people I talk to don’t explore their fears at all – and this makes them worse. The thought of public speaking brings up such uncomfortable feelings that they try to igno…
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How to Stop (Negative) Self-Comparison and Increase Your Confidence
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We often hear how negative self-comparisons can be, especially when it comes to social media. But what if we could use comparison as a force for good? A tool to help us grow and flourish at work and in our personal lives? Great news, we can! Today you’ll learn how to stop negatively comparing yourself to others and start measuring your progress in …
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Stop Numbing Out and Start Thriving: Self-Mastery is an Act of Self-Love
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Let's be real. We are smart people with an unhelpful habit of numbing out instead of taking action on our dreams. If you relate with any of the following then listen to this episode ASAP: - find it difficult to stay motivated and focused on goals - tendency to give in to distractions and urges that hinder progress - struggle with procrastination an…
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When People Interrupt You, Do This
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Ever been cut off mid-sentence and feel a whirlwind of emotions – frustration, anger, embarrassment? Why do we, as Enneagram 9s, take interruptions so personally, and how can we handle them with grace? I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel, and in this episode, I dive into effective communication and mindset strategies that will help you be seen and heard. …
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Stoic Leadership: Lessons from the Greatest Generation
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What do courage and resilience truly mean? This Memorial Day, I reflect on the incredible bravery of the 'Greatest Generation' during World War II, drawing inspiration from my visits to historic locations such as Auschwitz and Churchill's War Rooms in London. From blackouts to rationing, the everyday experiences of European civilians during WWII se…
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Have you ever noticed how our thoughts and reactions can create unnecessary stress, or cultivate empathy and understanding for others? On a recent flight to Florida, I was reminded of the power of perception and emotional resiliency. I share the story of passengers clapping after a smooth landing, the reactions of those around me as a father rushed…
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The Key to the Good Life: Who You’re With on the Journey
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Harvard researchers have been studying what makes people happy for decades. Since 1938, they’ve been following the same people, and then their families, to learn more about what makes a good life. This is the longest-running study of its kind involving hundreds of people across different walks of life. JFK was even involved when he was a student. S…
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I’m hosting a 2023 Goal-Mapping Workshop on Jan. 14. It’s free and a replay will be available for a few days after if you register in advance. This isn’t a lecture – it’s a very interactive session. You’ll: Create a vision for your year that aligns with your values and priorities Break down your big goals into manageable tasks that don't overwhelm …
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Keep Your Commitments: The Real Reason People Won’t Change
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Around January 1, we set goals that we intend to keep. But most of us break these vows before the month is over – why? What’s the real reason people won’t change? And how can we use Stoicism and modern psychology to start? To truly be free and move forward, we need to cultivate helpful thoughts and let go of unhelpful ones. This is how we become re…
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What does Auld Lang Syne mean and why is its message so important? Find out in this episode. Also, Happy New Year! What are your intentions for this year? https://sarahmikutel.com/ Become a member of the Live Without Borders Community ❤️ Let’s continue the conversation. Head on over to my blog on Substack for more on how to thrive through better co…
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This Is Your Second Chance: Stay Present For It
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It’s that time of year when we encourage each other to slow down, appreciate what we have, and be present with others. But how do we stay in the moment when our minds keep drifting to what’s happening next week, or what occurred 10 years ago? That’s what this episode is about. Sarahmikutel.com Become a member of the Live Without Borders Community ❤…
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Goals! How to Achieve Your New Year’s Resolutions
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“Putting things off is the biggest waste of life,” Seneca says, “it snatches away each day as it comes, and denies us the present by promising the future. The greatest obstacle to living is expectancy, which hangs upon tomorrow and loses today.” Seneca, On the Shortness of Life. Most of us don’t follow through on our New Year’s Resolutions because …
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How to Live More Courageously Part 2
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Quick reminder in case you need it…Even if you don’t feel like a particularly courageous person, you’ve acted bravely at some point in your life. Maybe you stood up for someone. Traveled solo. Moved abroad. Said no. Admitted when you were wrong. Jumped out of a plane. Cried in front of someone. You have what it takes to show up courageously every d…
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How to Live More Courageously Part 1
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We live in an age of cowards. Of people going along with the crowd because it’s the easy thing to do. It feels safer to throw stones at the other side than it does to stand for something positive and hopeful. There’s risk in questioning things and seeking other perspectives, whereas joining in the mob costs us nothing (except perhaps our character)…
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Most of our suffering comes from thoughts that we let run wild in our brains. We spend a lot of time each day rehashing different conversations and situations in our mind, and we think that we’re just reviewing facts. But we’re not. We’re reflecting on our own points of view, assuming what others think, worrying about the future, and ruminating abo…
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How Long Will You Wait Before You Demand the Best for Yourself?
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Janus is the Roman god of beginnings and endings, transitions and passageways, doorways and duality, amongst several other things. And he was one of my favorite sculptures in my town’s art Triennial this year, formally known as the Creative Folkestone Triennial 2021. High up on the East Cliff, in a little park overlooking the ocean, stood this mass…
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How to Enjoy More Euphoric Days & Make Better Decisions by Listening to the Wisdom of Your Body
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A few months ago, I downloaded the Waking Up meditation app. Founder Sam Harris compares the average mind with a sky clouded with light pollution. He says that meditation is like building a telescope that can cut through that fogginess so you can access “the sky of the mind.” And that’s what the Enneagram and Stoicism help us do, as well. Cut throu…
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In my episode on Stoicism and the Art of Happiness, Donald Robertson offered some techniques we can use to manage our anger toward people who hold views that we strongly disagree with. Today I want to talk to you about becoming more aware of your anger style, and to share more practices you can use to conquer your anger and also to learn from it. A…
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Ancient Wisdom that will Change Your Life: The Story of Marcus Aurelius
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For several years I've been interviewing women like myself who packed up everything to start a new adventure in another part of the world. One of the core values that I talk about is that we will never have this day again -- make it matter. It's my softer way of saying 'If you died tomorrow, would you be satisfied with how you lived this day?' I kn…
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Stoicism and the Art of Happiness
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Even though I haven't lived in the U.S. for 10 years, I've been in Italy and England for most of this time, I still pay close attention to my home country. At the time of this recording, it's 2020. The U.S. just ended the most contentious and vitriolic political campaign season I've seen in my lifetime. I see the divisiveness and bitter partisanshi…
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[UPDATE: I've since changed the name of my newest podcast to LIVE Without Borders, merging it with my original travel and wellbeing podcast. The purpose: Freedom is about more than getting on a plane. It’s about becoming the most heroic version of yourself. I want to help you live your best life without literal or self-imposed borders.] Why hello t…
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What do you do when someone takes advantage of you or tells YOU how YOU'RE feeling? You might want to cozy up in bed with a pillow on your head. But advocating for yourself and tackling the problem head on will make you feel better. You deserve to be your biggest advocate :) Xo Sarah Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, wh…
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Are you treating yourself as well as you treat your best friend? The next time you find yourself holding back when you want to ask for help, consider how you'd respond if a friend asked the same of you. Xo Sarah Hello! I'm your host, Sarah Mikutel. But the real question is, who are you? Where are you now and where do you want to be? Can I help you …
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Do you feel like you matter? When I first learned about the Enneagram, I resonated with almost everything there was to say about 9s, except the idea that we think we're not important, that we don't matter. "That doesn't resonate with me. Of course I matter," I thought. But this weekend I've been reflecting on how I've actually lived my life and had…
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Growth Mindset and the Power of Yet for INFP Enneagram 9s
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Last year around this time, I went to the beach with my mom. She was flipping through Real Simple magazine, which is our favorite beach read, and one of the articles posed this question: “What book has had the greatest impact on your life?” I immediately knew that the book that changed my life the most was Mindset by Carol Dweck, who is a psycholog…
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Find Your Focus: How to Add More Peaceful Productivity to Your Life
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Are you having a hard time getting things done? Maybe you’re a daydreamer. Maybe something is going on with your family. Maybe you’re devastated at the state of the world. Maybe you’re happy and hopeful and jumping around from thing to thing because you’re so excited. Maybe you have ADHD like today’s guest. I’m speaking with my friend Emily Prokop,…
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Are you overthinking something right now and can’t seem to move forward? I have a simple yet very powerful mindset mantra that will get you moving in the right direction: "Let Future You take care of it." Whoah! So simple yet such a powerful mindset shift. I heard this idea from one of my online business mentors, Elizabeth Goddard. Here's what she …
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Are You Choosing Alive Time or Dead Time?
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Over the last few weeks, I’ve been walking around coastal England and marveling at how nature just keeps going. The tulips here are so red and lush and full of life. The birds are singing, the sun is shining, the waves keep crashing as they always do. They don’t pause when there's a pandemic or when there's any other type of crisis in the world. We…
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How to Make Faster Decisions as an INFP 9
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Do you ever feel like you're a workaholic who never gets anything done? I felt like this for so long. When I started my own business, I really, really struggled with moving forward and taking action. I got stuck in rabbit holes and analysis paralysis and spent so many days and nights, including weekends when I could have been seeing my friends, sta…
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A Conversation with a Myers Briggs Coach, and My Friend, Caitlin Hawekotte
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Today I’m sharing a podcast episode I did with my friend Caitlin Hawekotte, who is an MBTI® Certified Practitioner, which means that she administers and interprets the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® assessment to help people discover more about their personality types and preferences. I actually shared this episode on both of my other podcasts becaus…
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Now is Your Time to Lead as an INFP Enneagram 9
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Hello from lock down in the UK. I’m sending you a big virtual hug wherever you are waiting out the COVID-19 coronavirus. Do you feel like you’re the only one not losing your mind grapes right now? Or maybe you were feeling really calm, but easing the anxiety of others is weighing on you and now you’re freaking out? I imagine we’ll feel a range of e…
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New to Myers Briggs and the Enneagram? I am. I’ve been digging in deeper with both these assessments this year, especially the Enneagram, and I’m obsessed! I believe personal development is essential to living a happy, meaningful life and that we should explore tools not only to understand ourselves better, but also those around us. In this episode…
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Expat Life: How I Learned to Thrive as an INFP Enneagram 9
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As INFP Enneagram 9s, we don’t always love putting ourselves out there publicly, but that doesn’t mean we’re not dream chasers. On this episode, I share how I, as an American, achieved my dream of living abroad. It all started with me scrubbing bathtubs as a chambermaid in England, where I lived in a converted stable. Humbling for sure, but an expe…
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Does this sound familiar? ✔️ The weekend passed by in a blur of busyness, but you’re not sure what you actually did and somehow your to-do list got longer. ✔️ You’re a rock star at helping others achieve their goals. But your dreams fall to the bottom of your priority list. Imagine how amazing it would feel if you fought as hard for yourself as you…
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