Parenting an ageing parent: Offering care with renewed boundaries

The CBT Dive

Our guest this episode is a medical worker named Ale who joins psychotherapist and host Rahim Thawer to discuss his complicated relationship with his mom and the difficult feelings that arise when she calls asking him for money. In a departure from our usual episode, Rahim pivots from using a thought record to using a problem solving worksheet to better address the logistics of Ale’s situation.

The conversation revolves around two main objectives: providing stability for Ale's mother and developing an adult relationship with her. The possible solutions discussed include Ale's mother moving to Canada, her finding a job back home, and seeing each other in person. However, there are challenges and limitations to each solution. Ale realises that he needs to shift his perspective on stability and take a more active role in coordinating the immigration process. The conversation ends on a realistic note, acknowledging the hard truths and the need for Ale to manage his expectations and frustrations.

ABOUT THE CBT DIVE PODCAST
The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.
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Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.
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Hoofdstukken

1. Introduction and situation (00:00:00)

2. Feelings (00:02:46)

3. Behaviors (00:04:53)

4. Automatic Thoughts (00:05:30)

5. Hot Thoughts (00:16:14)

6. Objective (00:18:27)

7. Possible Solutions (00:21:47)

8. Evaluation (00:23:33)

9. Solutions (00:28:39)

10. Final Thoughts and Outro (00:32:13)