04. From Boy to Man: Navigating Maturity and Responsibility with Devin Plowman

We Don't Deserve Men

In this podcast episode, the host welcomes Devin Plowman to discuss the evolving dynamics between men and women, as well as broader issues faced in society today. Devin shares his insights and experiences as a married man with a strong Christian background and five children. The conversation delves into topics such as the biological and societal factors influencing male maturity, the impact of marriage and fatherhood on men's development, workplace dynamics, and the challenges faced by men in today's culture. They discuss the generational shift in values, the decline of traditional rites of passage into manhood, and the effects of societal changes, like the rise of feminism and changing gender roles. Devin emphasizes the importance of strong values, responsibility, and leaving a lasting legacy, particularly through parenting. The discussion highlights how modern conveniences and societal shifts contribute to the lack of maturity in men, the role of women in these dynamics, and the potential long-term consequences for individuals and society. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Background 01:52 The Maturity of Men: Marriage and Fatherhood 03:39 Provider and Protector Instincts 04:53 Challenges in Modern Relationships 20:31 Rites of Passage and Cultural Shifts 30:55 The Importance of Family and Posterity 34:18 The Impact of Retirement on Men's Longevity 38:02 The Benefits of Getting Married Young 43:04 The Role of Values in Marriage 52:53 Challenges and Rewards of Being a Man 58:06 Advice for Young Men 59:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts