Season 2 Episode 14: How to perpetrator proof custody & access processes

Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

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Building on the Safe & Together Institute's white paper on perpetrators' manipulate of systems (and the related podcast) and work with the national Family Court of Australia, David & Ruth take a closer look at how domestic violence perpetrators can continue to undermine child safety and well-being post-separation, manipulate systems regarding custody and access issues, and how they target professionals in order to extend their coercive control after a relationship has ended.
In this episode, Ruth & David talk about:

• How professionals can properly identify and assess coercive control in the context of custody and access matters
• How professionals can use a behavioral lens to identify how systems and professionals are targeted, post separation, by parents who choose coercive control
• How to inoculate yourself, as practitioner, against these behaviors
• How, by using a collaborative parenting standard as a lens for identifying the risks and harms created by domestic violence perpetrators, systems can increase accountability in custody and access situations
• How understanding patterns of pre- and post separation coercive control and actions taken to harm the children is essential for understanding, contextualizing, and validating the protective parents' behaviors
• How acknowledging differing cultural expectations of men and women as parents is essential to assessing child safety and well-being in the context of post separation coercive control

Essential listening for anyone who is interested in child safety and well-being in the context of post separation coercive control, their discussion includes practical steps and has implications for women sector workers and advocat

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