An Upfront Look at Men’s Mental Health — One Man’s Journey

On This Walk

The mental well-being of men has received some more attention of late—but not in a good way. Brace yourself as we share some painful truths about the stigma surrounding male mental health… And discuss the way back to true well-being.

This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Tim Perreira who shares his personal journey with mental health. After hitting a plateau in his life and being fired during the pandemic, he faced depression, weight gain, and a serious reconsideration of what matters. However, these challenges became a turning point for him to prioritize his well-being.

We delve into men's challenges when seeking support and the importance of morning routines for productivity and mental health. Please join us as we break the silence on men's mental health and much more!

In This Episode

• (08:22) Tim's shift from external to internal orientation
• (11:07) Men's pursuit of external peace
• (13:11) The challenges men face in seeking help for mental health issues
• (15:16) Transformation and understanding of the human mind
• (17:26) Depersonalizing mental health
• (22:23) Reasons why men are not seeking help
• (26:30) Men's struggle with societal norms
• (35:48) The benefits of joining a men's group
• (37:33) The importance of having a supportive community
• (40:48) Men’s reluctance to explore emotional and mental health
• (41:00) Creation of narratives and limiting beliefs in the mind
• (42:20) Seeking fulfillment in core human emotions
• (48:17) Tim's modalities for mental well-being
• (50:54) Creating a morning routine
• (59:10) Micro-commitment for meditation
• (01:03:32) The importance of intention
• (01:09:47) An advice for those struggling with mental health

Notable Quotes

• “Strength is recognizing that something's off and doing something about it. You know, strength isn't bearing it like that's easy to bury it and to cover it and sweep it under the rug. It is hard to stare at your deepest fears and insecurities in the face and say, I'm going to do something about this, I don't know what it's going to be, I have no idea what I'm doing. Like extremely vulnerable to even step into that world but just to reinforce that, it takes such a massive amount of strength.” – Tim (01:10:35)
• “External peace has been so much what we've been taught to chase. We're told that this is the image of what it means to make it in the world as you maybe turn towards family and things. This is what it means to be the provider and the protector of that family. And this is what you got to do to prepare yourself for that role. And so we get so oriented and caught up in that external there to flip it and say, actually, no, you've got to build a life from the inside and then bring it out. It literally feels like flipping our whole world upside down.” – Luke (00:11:07)

Our Guest

Tim Perreira is a former college athlete turned tech sales pro who struggled to find purpose after sports. Despite achieving sales success through job hopping, he felt unfulfilled and realized something was missing. After being fired during the pandemic, Tim decided to pursue his passion for mental health and wellness. He founded PER, a company focused on improving men's health and crushing stigmas.

Resources & Links

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• https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/
• https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio
• https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow

Tim Perreira

• https://www.linkedin.com/in/timperreira/

Mentioned

• Atomic Habits by James Clear - https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-Proven-Build-Break/dp/0735211299
• Unbroken: The Trauma Response is Never Wrong by MaryCatherine McDonald, PhD - https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Trauma-Response-Never-Things/dp/1683648846#:~:text=%22Unbroken%22%20by%20Dr.,a%20demonstration%20of%20its%20strength.
• F3 Nation - https://f3nation.com/