Empowering LGBTQ Kids During Holidays: Practical Tips for Inclusive Parenting with Heather Hester

Helping Families Be Happy

In this episode of the Helping Families Be Happy podcast, host Adina Oberman interviews Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and author of Parenting with Pride: Unlearn Bias and Embrace, Empower, and Love Your LGBTQ Teen. Heather shares her personal journey of parenting LGBTQ children and provides actionable strategies for navigating family gatherings during the holidays with compassion and confidence. This insightful conversation covers setting healthy boundaries, supporting your child, and fostering open communication, all while promoting acceptance and love within families.
Episode Highlights

[02:15] Heather’s Journey and Parenting with Pride:
Heather introduces her book, which draws from her family’s experience of parenting LGBTQ children, and explains how it helps parents unlearn biases and embrace understanding and empowerment.

[07:30] Setting Boundaries at Family Gatherings:
Heather discusses how to handle challenging conversations with family members who may not be affirming of LGBTQ identities. She emphasizes the importance of protecting your child and modeling self-respect.

[12:45] Simple Strategies for Difficult Conversations:
Learn how to deflect confrontational topics by providing resources or redirecting conversations. Heather explains why it’s not your responsibility to educate others and how to prioritize your child’s well-being.

[18:00] Empowering Your Child Through Support:
Heather highlights the importance of allowing your child to make decisions about their participation in gatherings. By showing them respect and standing by their choices, parents can empower children to set their own boundaries.

[22:15] Recognizing and Managing Emotional Triggers:
Heather shares tips for managing emotional reactions during heated discussions, including pausing to respond thoughtfully. She encourages parents to model calm, intentional behavior for their children.

[26:30] Teaching Self-Love Through Boundaries:
Setting and maintaining boundaries isn’t just about family dynamics—it’s about teaching children how to advocate for themselves and love themselves.

[30:00] Final Advice for Navigating Family Dynamics:
Heather advises parents to stay present, trust their instincts, and have their child’s back in any situation, even when caught off guard by challenging family dynamics.

Key Takeaways

Set Healthy Boundaries: Protect your child by setting clear limits with family members who are not affirming.
Empower Your Child: Support your child’s autonomy in deciding how to navigate family gatherings.
Model Emotional Awareness: Teach by example—respond thoughtfully to challenging situations instead of reacting impulsively.
Provide Resources, Not Arguments: Redirect confrontational conversations by offering educational resources, not personal debates.