Episode 281: ‘Jack and Jill-Off’ (Carol Queen)

Bawdy Storytelling

Have you ever wanted to engage in a little friendly social masturbation? Legendary Author and Sexologist Carol Queen takes us on a freestyle journey back to the 80’s, where she details her own fear of sex, and how she found true love. In the early days of the AIDS Epidemic, lack of medical answers lead to a generalized Coitophobia… could intercourse actually kill you? Soon the San Francisco Jacks come up with a creative way to release sexual energy, but they only allow gay men. Solution: Time for a Jill-Off, too - but be careful where you set down your hat. And Dixie is going On Tour, finally - Get Ready to Get Bawdy, y’all!

Song: ‘W.Y.D.O.T.D. Pt 1’ (Jefferson Bergey)

Masturbation Club l Sex Party | Institute of Advanced Sexuality l Doctorate of Sexology l Healing l Gay Male l Tuition l Dyke-Identified | Masturbation l Swinger l AIDS Epidemic l Bend Over Boyfriend l Pegging l Dirty Limerick l Poetry l Penetration I Sex Education l Submissive l Piss Play l Circus l Ringmaster l Sexually Transmitted l Visual Stimulation l Multiple Orgasms l Rental l Lesbian l Peg The Patriarchy l Condom l Bisexual l Contagion l Arousal | Rules l Voyeurism l Masturbate-A-Thon l Consent l Human Sexuality l

About our Storyteller:

Carol Queen is an American author, editor, sociologist, and sexologist active in the sex-positive feminism movement. Queen is a two time Grand Marshal of San Francisco LGBTQ Pride. Queen has written on human sexuality in books such as Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture. She has written a sex tutorial, Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot, as well as erotica, such as the novel The Leather Daddy and the Femme. Queen has produced adult movies, events, workshops and lectures. Queen was featured as an instructor and star in both installments of the Bend Over Boyfriend series about female-to-male anal sex, or pegging. She has also served as editor for compilations and anthologies, and is a sex-positive sex educator who speaks on stages around the world.

Episode links:

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WORKSHOP:

This Sunday, December 3rd: ’How to Be Fascinating: Dixie’s Secret System for Brilliant Storytelling’ is happening live and in-person. It’s an all day workshop in San Francisco, and there’s just one spot left…cause I’ve been saving it for YOU.

Do you tend to ramble a bit? Got ADHD, or are you Neurodivergent? Forget where you were going with that story? Wonder what your story is really about (because you’ll learn so much about yourself and what drives you, through your stories). I’ll teach you my incredibly easy (and super secret) method and soon, you’ll rock that job interview, excel at public speaking, feel more at ease on dates, learn to fully express yourself and yes, even stand onstage and deliver a standing-ovation worthy chapter from your life, if that’s your goal. You’ll find my story method valuable because once you learn how, you’ll know the secret of telling a great story forever. #LifeSkills #NotJustBawdy

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Thank you to the Team that makes this podcast possible!

Team Bawdy is:

Podcast Producer: Roman Den Houdijker Sound Engineer: David Grosof

Storytelling support by Mosa Maxwell-Smith

Dixie’s Virtual Assistant is Roillan James

Video & Livestream support from Donal Mooney

Bawdy’s Creator & Podcast Host is Dixie De La Tour

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