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One of the most common questions we get in sessions boils down to "How can I change another?" So many of us are frustrated with a colleague who consistently doesn't do what they say they are going to do. They may even consistently let us down.
In this episode, I answer a question from a session of mine when someone brings up that they are having a constant issue with someone they work with. With that question in mind, I dove deep into the philosophy to give you our best tips for navigating this all-too-common challenge for so many people.
This is one of the most common questions I hear during my speaking engagements during Q&A and it boils down to basically a question around "How can I change another?" This is such a setup question because you cannot actually change another. You can try some of the techniques I mentioned here to bypass their ego and you can try to stop the co-creation cycle yourself and limit your judgement, but you cannot change another.
By using some of the tools I mention in this podcast you do what you can actually do in this situation that would be productive - you can stay at a non-judgement, high-level of accountability yourself AND you can stop enabling some of the behavior of the other person.
This ability to stop enabling actually may help reality and natural consequences do it's own work to eventually lead to a better result.
So if you are someone wondering:
- How to deal with a tough co-worker?
- What if someone constantly frustrates me?
- What if someone is consistently resistant?
- How to get someone to listen?
- How to get someone to do what I want them to do at work?
- Tips for solving conflict at work
Or anything similar! This podcast will have some great ideas for you.
I talked a bunch about this idea of Stop Judging and Start Helping and the Edit Your Story tool below is the foundation for learning that great mental process to carve away drama. Grab that for free below!
Here is a link to our Edit Your Story tool to get you started on noticing when you are stressed or frustrated and to better tune into your thoughts.
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Let's keep ditching the drama.