The goal of healing isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer and his wife, Jody Steurer, as they share ways to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal and relationship betrayal trauma toward connection. The information in these discussions transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.
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Disarming Coercive Behaviors - Episode 244
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How do you deal with coercion and emotional immaturity from other people? Do you defend yourself, disengage, or meet the other person at their level and try to play their game? In this episode we discuss the importance of disengaging from unhealthy interactions, not engaging in defense, and focusing on our own actions and reactions. The Power of Co…
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The Challenge of Rebuilding Trust - With Brannon Patrick - Episode 243
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I was recently invited to be a guest on the “Therapy Brothers” podcast. In this thought-provoking episode, Brannon Patrick and I delve into the complex and crucial topic of rebuilding trust in relationships affected by betrayal. We explore the foundational role of honesty in the healing process, discuss the challenges and misconceptions about trust…
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The Challenge of Rebuilding Trust - with Brannon Patrick - Episode 243
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I was recently invited to be a guest on the “Therapy Brothers” podcast. In this thought-provoking episode, Brannon Patrick and I delve into the complex and crucial topic of rebuilding trust in relationships affected by betrayal. We explore the foundational role of honesty in the healing process, discuss the challenges and misconceptions about trust…
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Inpatient vs. Outpatient Treatment - Episode 242
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Sobriety, safety, support, and stability are crucial in the aftermath of addiction and betrayal, and can be found in both inpatient and outpatient treatment scenarios. Join me as I outline the importance of personalized considerations, support systems, and cost implications in making the decision between inpatient and outpatient treatment for addic…
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A Post-Disclosure Pep Talk for the Betrayed Partner - Episode 241
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Discovering you have been betrayed is an extreme life-altering moment. Knowing what to do or where to turn next can feel insurmountable. In this episode I share 4 thoughts as a “pep talk” for the betrayed partner. Join me as I outline encouraging messages and steps to help you through the disclosure process and moving forward. The Power of Communit…
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A Post-Disclosure Pep Talk for the Recovering Partner
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The road after a betrayal and disclosure can be long and arduous. In this episode I share 4 thoughts as a “pep talk” for the recovering partner who is inevitably facing extreme discomfort and uncertainty. Stepping into disclosure is an intense, demanding experience, but the aftermath is the time to really do the work as an individual and to support…
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A Post-Disclosure Pep Talk for the Recovering Partner - Episode 240
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The road after a betrayal and disclosure can be long and arduous. In this episode I share 4 thoughts as a “pep talk” for the recovering partner who is inevitably facing extreme discomfort and uncertainty. Stepping into disclosure is an intense, demanding experience, but the aftermath is the time to really do the work as an individual and to support…
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"No More Mr. Nice Guy" - with Dr. Robert Glover - Episode 239
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The need to be accepted, combined with the fear of abandonment and rejection can lead us into becoming what other people want us to be while hiding who we truly are. This can drive us to deceit, manipulation, lies, and betrayal. In this episode I have invited Dr. Robert Glover to discuss his book, “No More Mr. Nice Guy”. Join us as we discuss the n…
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The Lure of the Victim Mindset
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This week we are re-visiting an episode that aired one year ago, but is an important topic that is continually relevant as we navigate the ups and downs of life. Life is full of situations that are out of our control. Once we have recovered from the initial shock of what has happened, how do we proceed? Do we continue to live as if we are powerless…
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Resilience in the Aftermath of Betrayal - with KayLee Dunn - Episode 238
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It's common for betrayed partners to wonder if they'll ever be themselves again. Enduring sleepless nights, constant stress, and regular emotional breakdowns can cause doubt that there can be a future worth looking forward to. This month we are going to focus on how betrayed partners can build resilience in the aftermath of betrayal. We've invited …
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Narcissism or Emotional Immaturity? - with Tony Overbay - Episode 237
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Narcissism has gained momentum in everyday conversation. While many individuals exhibit varying degrees of narcissistic tendencies, true Narcissistic Personality Disorder needs much more attention and diagnosing than a mere accusation. In this episode we welcome Tony Overbay to discuss the difference between emotional immaturity and narcissism. Joi…
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The Importance of Men's Work - with Kurt Francom - Episode 236
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One of the biggest casualties men experience, often when they are boys, is getting separated from their own hearts and living life on autopilot. Addictions, trauma, abandonment, and other challenges can create more separation and make it difficult for men to feel alive and energized. It can also make it difficult to connect to themselves, to God, a…
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The Four Levels of Communication - with Nathaniel Gustafson - Episode 235
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The Four Levels of Communication - with Nathaniel Gustafson- Episode 235 Communication in a marriage or committed relationship isn't always easy, especially in the aftermath of betrayal. We've invited fellow therapist Nathaniel Gustafson to teach us more about the four levels of communication and how to improve your ability to build a stronger conn…
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Transactional vs. Transformational Relationship Dynamics - with Julia Witt - Episode 234
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We've invited Julia Witt to join us for a great discussion on transactional versus transformational relationships. Geoff discovered Julia when someone sent him a Tik Tok video of her discussing this topic. He knew he had to invite her to share more with our community. Transactional relationship dynamics are so common, especially in couples healing …
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Taking Ownership of Our Stories - with Jason Portnoy - Episode 233
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In this episode we are joined by Jason Portnoy, who wrote a memoir called “Silicon Valley Porn Star”. Jason shares his personal journey of addiction, infidelity, and self-discovery. We discuss the importance of surrendering and taking responsibility for unhealthy patterns in order to heal, grow, and overcome addiction. As with any personal recovery…
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Worthiness vs. Trust - Episode 232
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In this episode we discuss the topic of rebuilding trust and healing from betrayal. The concepts of 'worthiness' and 'trust' often get confused, and it is extremely important to maintain a clear distinction. 'Worthiness' is someone's inherent human value, which is unchangeable regardless of their actions, while 'trust' is about behavior patterns, c…
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Healing Rituals in Marriage - with Amanda Christensen, LMFT - Episode 231
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When we have injuries, losses, disappointments, betrayals, and other painful things happen in our marriages, healing rituals are a way we can mark that things are different. We use rituals all the time to symbolically mark changes in our lives, such as graduation ceremonies, funerals, weddings, birthdays, baptisms, etc. We live in a world of symbol…
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Loving at a Distance While Keeping the Flame Alive - with KayLee Dunn- Episode 230
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When you're healing from betrayal trauma, it's completely normal to still wonder how to keep the relationship alive. If you're completely done with the relationship, then this video isn't for you. However, if you are working toward relationship recovery or you think you want to move toward that as a goal, join in this discussion I had with KayLee D…
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Loving at a Distance While Keeping the Flame Alive - with KayLee Dunn - Episode 230
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When you're healing from betrayal trauma, it's completely normal to still wonder how to keep the relationship alive. If you're completely done with the relationship, then this video isn't for you. However, if you are working toward relationship recovery or you think you want to move toward that as a goal, join in this discussion I had with KayLee D…
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Affair-Proofing Your Relationship - with Shannon Brown, LMFT - Episode 229
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Most couples never imagine they could find themselves in the crisis of an extramarital affair. The slope is slippery and every couple is at risk for infidelity issues unless they have intentionality and boundaries around their marriage. We are joined in this episode by Shannon Brown, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who specializes in affa…
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